35 in 35: Week Four

My 35 Good Things in 35 Days hasn't been going the way I had hoped. There's no warm & fuzzy feelings. No sweet smiles. No Thank Yous.

Instead, I've been greeted with general grumpiness that makes me feel stabby.

Kiki thinks it's because it's December and people are stressing over the holidays. But shouldn't this season make people more appreciative/nice/apt to act like a fucking human being?!

Ahem.

One morning at Starbucks, I decided to buy the elderly gentleman behind me a coffee. He placed his order and I handed over my card and said "I'll take care of his coffee."

"You want my coffee?", he asked.

"No, no. I just want to buy it for you."

"Ugh", he groaned.

He actually UGHED! I was taken aback and went to wait for my drink to be called. He headed over to the condiment bar, where he continued to look annoyed and borderline disgusted.

I was in shock for most of the rest of the day. I mean, really? Not even a thank you?! No "Gee, thanks, whipper snapper! That's awfully nice of you!"

Another morning, I was letting someone cut in front of me in traffic and received a nice, loooong HONK! from the guy behind me. It continued so obnoxiously long that I finally turned around and yelled "I. AM. TRYING. TO. BE NIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIICE!!!!"

And the woman I let cut in front of me? Not even a wave.

Those are just two incidents of more than a handful. On more than one occasion, I have wanted to scream "YOU SUCK! Yes, YOU! YOU SUUUUUUUUUUUUCK! Why do you ALL suck!?"

For the last ten days, I've looked at my list and groaned like the old man at Starbucks. I don't want to be nice to anyone  or go out of my way for people.

And then I read this.

Turns out, there are decent people out there. And wouldn't you know it, they are my fellow New Yorkers.

This article has convinced me not to abandon my list and instead to double-down on being nice. So with one week to go.....let's do this!




~{ 35 in 35 }~
Donate books to the library
Pay 5 strangers compliments
Leave 10 lucky pennies on the pavement
Leave 15 nice blog comments
Send 20 postcards to friends

Leave 25 love notes in the world
Write in my journal for 30 minutes
Give $35 to a charity
Write a letter to someone I admire
Send cupcakes to a friend

Treat myself to a massage
Spend one hour of uninterrupted Ben time
Ask a stranger how his/her day is going
Make homemade pumpkin bread/ or muffins for coworkers
Help a new mom

Donate clothing and toys to Orangewood Children’s Center
Treat myself to a mani/pedi
Give spare change to the next person who asks for it
Buy coffee for the person behind me in line
Write a thank you note to a former teacher

Purchase coloring books & crayons for a waiting room at the hospital
Feed someone who could really use a meal
Forgive someone
Let the person behind me cut in front of me at checkout
Take my sister out to lunch

Apologize to someone
Send a random friend flowers
Do every good thing that presents itself that day
Tip someone generously
Go one day without complaining

Go one day without gossiping
Call a family member just to say Hi
Tape microwave popcorn bags to Redbox Movie machines
Make a mixed CD for a friend
Let Ben pick what we have for dinner one night - nothing is off the table!

3 comments:

Bad Mummy said...

I would love to receive a postcard from you if you want to get working on that one. We will even send one back...I will find one of snowy Toronto to send!

Liz said...

Awesome! I was actually going to cross that one off this weekend. Can you email me your address?

Ingrid said...

Don't give up! People can be awful out there...every time someone lets a door hit me when I'm trying to come through with a stroller, I am taken aback at how either oblivious or just plain rude people are. All I can think is "people suck!!" But then when someone goes out of their way to help me, it is THE BEST feeling in the world. And I love people again. That old man might not be used to someone doing something nice, but hopefully he realized it later. And if he didn't, it doesn't mean there isn't someone else out there who is just waiting for someone to be kind and helpful. Do it, girl! Just try not to expect anything in return. Maybe the old man was old fashioned and felt his male ego deflated in some way by a young woman buying him something?